Healthy Sexual Communication
Healthy sexual communication involves: honesty, informed consent, risk reduction, mutual respect, feeling good about yourself, respecting boundaries, and much more!
1. Know what YOU want. Even though it can be difficult, it’s okay to ask for what you want. Before you go into the conversation, be clear on what you will compromise on and what you won’t. Think about what precautions you’re willing to take for safer sex and what level of risk you’re willing to accept.
2. Communicate with your partner. It may be easier to talk about safer sex before you begin sex play. Make sure it’s a good time, when you’re both feeling relaxed and there aren’t a lot of distractions.
3. Make sure both you and your partner are comfortable with the language you’re using. Being vague or using terms that make you or your partner feel uncomfortable may create barriers.
4. Be positive. Rather than saying, “You never do this…” you might try, “I really like it when you do this…”
5. If you can find it hard to use words, you may have to show your partner what you mean. Don’t be afraid to show your partner what makes you comfortable and what feels good to you.
6. Anticipate your partner’s response. Practice what you say in each situation. This can prepare you to talk and increase your confidence and your knowledge of what you want.
7. Consent is sexy. Be clear about communicating your consent, and be sure that your partner is likewise consenting to any sexual activity.